Be leery of war stories. When separating from a spouse, many people will stand in line to give you advice from their own experiences or those experience from others. Information like “Aunt Suzy got alimony for the rest of her life …”,”Tom got taken to the cleaners…” or “My brother only gets to see his kids once a month because he is a man…” often misportrays or misstates the situation as it really occurred. Use your friends and family for emotional support. Use your lawyer for legal advice. The advice you receive from a lawyer will be specifically tailored to your case and laws of the state in which you reside.
As usual, every situation has exceptions. Consult with a Charlottesville lawyer to get the full details.